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Coaching for women rebuilding after abuse and trauma. Powerful speaking rooted in lived experience, and practical training for organisations that want to respond with confidence, care and clear boundaries.
You are welcome here
You do not need the right words, a diagnosis, or a clear story to be here. If something feels hard to carry, that is enough.
Ways to work with Raj
Whether you are seeking personal support, booking a speaker, developing your team or looking for resources to use in your own time, there is a clear place to begin.
Coaching
Trauma-informed one-to-one and group coaching for women ready to understand what shaped them, rebuild confidence and move forward at a pace that feels manageable.
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Grounded, powerful speaking for conferences, churches, schools, universities and community events. Lived experience, insight and hope, without sensationalising trauma.
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Trauma-informed training that helps organisations understand abuse and trauma, communicate safely, hold appropriate boundaries and respond with greater confidence.
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Published books, the Beauty For Your Ashes journal and affirmation cards, created to support reflection and rebuilding at your own pace.
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I don't coach or speak from theory alone. I speak from what I have lived, and that is the foundation of everything I do.
I'm a certified mindset and trauma-informed coach, speaker, trainer, author and ordained minister based in Birmingham. I've lived through domestic abuse, spiritual abuse, two attempted forced marriages and attempts on my life, and I now support others to rebuild.
I don't share what follows to impress you. I share it so you know the person supporting you has done the work, walked the road, and been recognised for it. Because I started exactly where you might be standing right now.
Books & resources
Books and a journal written from real lived experience, for anyone finding their way through and beyond abuse and trauma. Something to sit with, in your own time and at your own pace.
The Only Arranged Marriage
A raw and honest autobiography of survival, forced marriage, and finding freedom.
Uncovering Truths
The follow up autobiography exploring spiritual abuse, faith, and the courage to speak.
Beauty For Your Ashes
A guided journal offering space for reflection, restoration, and gentle growth.
Also available
These cards are designed to offer steady reminders, reflection, and grounding in everyday life. They can be used quietly on your own, as part of a personal routine, or alongside journalling and coaching where appropriate. Some people use them daily.
The structure beneath the work
Most personal development starts with what people can see. This starts underneath, with what your life is built on.
One idea holds it together: you cannot build a strong future on a false foundation. A false foundation does not mean you are broken, or to blame for what happened. It means some of the beliefs you have carried, often formed through pain or survival, were never strong enough to hold the life you are trying to build.
How the Framework worksThe Six Foundations™
Blueprint
What shaped me?
Understanding what formed how you see yourself.
Bedrock
What am I built on?
Looking honestly at beliefs and patterns.
Cracks
What are my patterns showing me?
Reading them as information, not fault.
Truth
What is actually true?
Testing a belief instead of accepting it.
Rebuild
How do I build differently?
One real change at a time.
Legacy
What will I pass forward?
What stops with you, and what begins.
The Foundation Framework brings together established trauma-informed coaching practice, the Unbreakable Mindset Method®, and material developed from my own lived experience and client work. I name my sources because you should know what you are being taught and where it came from.
What clients and audiences say
Before working with Raj, I felt trapped in fear. Now I have hope and a plan for my future.
Anonymous · 1:1 coaching clientRaj's talk was powerful, raw, and unforgettable. She held the room in silence, then moved us to hope.
Anonymous · Conference audienceIn just one breakthrough session with Raj, I gained clarity and hope I hadn't felt in years. I've now committed to 12 coaching sessions. Scared, but more than that, excited for the journey ahead.
Anonymous · 1:1 coaching clientWhen Raj speaks, she doesn't just inspire. She shifts something inside you.
Anonymous · Church eventFrom a history of anxiety and depression and being done with life, to I'm so grateful for this life.
Anonymous · 1:1 coaching clientRaw, gripping, and deeply insightful. Spiritual abuse is not talked about enough.
Anonymous · Reader, Uncovering TruthsShared with permission. Names shortened or withheld to protect privacy.
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A free guide
Five Things Nobody Tells You About Rebuilding After Abuse is a short, honest guide written for women who are finding their feet again after abuse. It names five things that are rarely spoken about but almost universally felt.
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A free tool
If you are not yet ready to book a call or commit to a programme, that is completely understandable.
Begin with the free Trigger Finder Self-Reflection Tool. It is a simple, private way to identify the patterns, emotional triggers, and hidden blocks that may still be shaping your daily life.
There is no pressure and no obligation. Just a quiet first step toward understanding yourself a little more clearly. Clarity creates momentum. And momentum creates change.
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